Feelings follow behaviour

I disagree with this statement; I think it works the other way around. The way we feel causes us to act in a particular way. Feelings directly cause behaviour. Actions can be explained by citing the emotional state that gave rise to them. i.e. Someone did something “because she was excited” or “because he was furious” or “because he was sad” or “because he was afraid”. The function and purpose of these feelings was to cause people to act in a certain way. Feelings does not follow behaviour, it influences it.



 If you have negative feelings towards an individual or towards something you will act and respond to that person or thing in a negative manner. You won’t be as friendly and talkative to the person as you’d normally be with one of your best buddies. The same scenario applies when you are happily in love with a person. You will then treat this person with respect, care for them and love them with all your heart. In this case your positive feelings toward the person will lead to positive behaviour.

Wedding Cake in the middle of the road

Finally! The big day has arrived. It’s one of those days that most women dream of since they were a little girl. The thought of being rescued and swept off their feet by their prince. Like many other women, Lucy had been single for most of her life. Until one fine when she met her prince charming named Luke Smith. The couple had been courting for five years. “It’s about time we tied the knot”, Lucy said to her best friend and maid of honour, Kim Jacobs.



Everything seemed to be running smoothly. Lucy woke up at 6:00am and had everything planned out perfectly. After all she is a perfectionist. Lucy jumped into the shower while Kim made sure that everything else was in place. She checked that her wedding gown, hair material, cosmetics and shoes etc. were all in place and ready. Nothing could go wrong today, everything will be spot on! Or so it seemed. Lucy got dressed and had her hair and make-up done. She was on time (which was rather unusual as most brides are normally at least 30 minutes late). The church had been decorated and setup, the reception area was ready.


The time had arrived, it was time to leave the hotel room and head off to the church. Lucy’s Limo had arrived to pick her up. She got into the luxury vehicle with her dad and maid of honour and off they went. But to her surprise as they approached the church she noticed that something was wrong. There were a whole lot of people outside the church. It seems as if they were arguing. “What on earth could be going on here?”, Lucy said in terror. As she got out of the vehicle she slowly but surely discovered that the reason for the argument was because the church had been double booked! So there were two weddings planned for the same time. What a disaster! More and more people started to join in on the argument some of Luke and Lucy’s family and guests, and some of the individuals from the other couples wedding. Not knowing what to do Lucy walked away from the action and realised that here perfect day had been ruined by an individual who had made stupid mistake by double booking her wedding venue. Whilst walking away and approaching the busy road she realised that this day has turned out like a perfectly made wedding cake. A wedding cake that has been put in the middle of a busy road, been driven over and crumbled into pieces.

It's a bad idea to lie to yourself

Many people continually lie to themselves. It’s probably our way as human beings of making things seem to be the way that we want or hope for it to be. However, we should all realise that lying to oneself is a poor idea. It will not bring about any good. Lying to yourself just brings about havoc and could catch you completely off guard. The one day you might tell a friend, family member or even an acquaintance one thing and the next day you could end up telling them another without even realising it. By doing this you will obviously shoot yourself in the foot. So in that case, why not just tell the truth from the beginning?



It is normal for people to want the best for themselves in terms of education, security, wealth and health. This could probably be one of the main reasons why people lie to themselves. i.e. Some one really wishes they were well educated, lived in a really fancy home and had everything they need or could ever hoped for. But on the contrary their life and lifestyle is the complete opposite. They aren’t well educated and do not live the fancy life. So instead of facing reality they’d live a ‘make-believe’ life by telling people that they are some hot shot who lives in a mansion and has the dream job which any person would kill to have. At the end of the day these lies continue and become more and more. Eventually the lies will catch up with the individual and the person will end up having no friends at all.


If you continue to lie to others and yourself people will end up not believing you at all, even when you are telling the truth. Like the famous story we all know, the one about the boy who cried wolf. I’m sure no one wants to be like him!

The sound of one hand clapping

 

An inspired music artist derived a really great idea. For years he had been trying to come up with a unique way to make some extra cash besides the CD’s he had been selling for the past few years. Eventually it hit him, he finally had it, the bright idea he had be searching for, for a long while. He thought to himself, “Why not do a collaboration show in theatre with one of the top theatre producers in Cape Town?” He knew that if he’d combine his live singing with acting it would be a hit.

He worked it all out, decided to draw up a strategy and negotiate with one of Cape Towns top producers. He managed to propose his bright idea to a very talented young man who is a fresh producer. The two of them rubbed shoulders and put their heads together. They had it all worked out, it was planned and thought of fluently. The band who would be playing on the big evening was sorted out and so were the actors.

The team rehearsed for three months non-stop. Everything was perfect! And the big event had been advertised all over. After a month all tickets were sold out.Finally, the big night arrived. Everything was in place, or so it seemed. The show began with a bang, the band and actors were sizzling. But as the show reached the half way mark…. Bam! Everything went dark and the room was filled with distinct silence. Everyone began to feel uneasy because they could not see a thing. The theatres maintenance guy came running out from the back shouting, “It’s a power failure! The electricity tripped! No one knew what to do or where to go since they could not see a thing. And the power just simply would not go back on again. It was a complete disaster.

Eventually, after the MC managed to get the crowd settled he announced that unfortunately the big show was forced to come to an end. “Thank you for coming, sorry for the inconvenience”. Enjoy the rest of the evening….. Not knowing what else to say or how else to apologise the MC left the stage. The evening never quite ended the way it was supposed to. Instead of hearing a massive round of applause for the ‘oh so wonderful show’, all that was heard is the sound of one hand clapping….

Not all who wonder are lost

Many a times people seem to drift away from where they actually are. As individuals we tend to allow our imagination and thoughts to wonder on a daily basis. This is not always a bad thing. When our minds wonder and think of all kinds of things in life we are stretching our imaginations and allowing creativity to take place.

There are many occasions when an individual becomes side tracked by drifting away from where they are, and in stead of paying attention to what they are supposed to be paying attention to they allow their minds to wonder. A good example is a student in a long, tedious lecture. It’s only normal for a student’s mind to drift away from a lecture and wonder off to what they could have been doing, or what they will be doing later that day. Many students often wonder about how awesome it will be when they finally enter the industry they’ve been studying to be in. This will inspire them to complete what they’ve started and do their tasks to the best of their ability.  And then there is obviously the creative side to drifting away. Often individuals are inspired by their thoughts and fantasies. We could dream about something and see a beautiful picture in the thought or dream we had. This picture would not be forgotten easily, and could possibly be used in future (in a project, poster, brochure etc.).

Being lost in ones thoughts is not always a bad thing. Wondering does not mean that you are lost, it could simply mean that you are exercising your imagination. And in the long run this could have a positive effect on you.