I disagree with this statement; I think it works the other way around. The way we feel causes us to act in a particular way. Feelings directly cause behaviour. Actions can be explained by citing the emotional state that gave rise to them. i.e. Someone did something “because she was excited” or “because he was furious” or “because he was sad” or “because he was afraid”. The function and purpose of these feelings was to cause people to act in a certain way. Feelings does not follow behaviour, it influences it.
If you have negative feelings towards an individual or towards something you will act and respond to that person or thing in a negative manner. You won’t be as friendly and talkative to the person as you’d normally be with one of your best buddies. The same scenario applies when you are happily in love with a person. You will then treat this person with respect, care for them and love them with all your heart. In this case your positive feelings toward the person will lead to positive behaviour.
This is debatable, I do understand your perspective but in some cases I do believe that when we act in a certain way: that is our behaviour, we will feel good about our actions or we will feel guilty about them (feelings).
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